Because there's a thin line between "Brother-in-Christ" and "Mr.Right."
1. Don't tell him your secrets.
Don't even tell him your business. Here's why:
1. He doesn't care.
Men communicate different than women. You can pour you heart out to your best-friend and she will be waiting with an empty bucket and a tissue to collect all your tears. A guy will most likely just shrug.
And even if he has good advice to offer, he only heard a third of what you said. Not to discredit men's listening skills, but let's be honest, you can talk for 20 minutes straight with no clear point.
When you tell someone what you are going through, you are making yourself vulnerable and giving that person a place within your heart. Being too "transparent" with guys can create a misunderstanding in the friendship.
2. Treat him like a...wait for it...a brother.
I remember my best friend and I were having a conversation about having guy friends and she dropped this bomb:
"If he is really your brother in Christ, treat him like you treat your brother."
I have brothers, three of em. Um. Ew. If you don't have any brothers, just think about the boundaries between siblings and let that sink in. You would never fall for your brother. Again, ew.
3. Don't use the, "Oh but we're saved" excuse.
Duh. That's why you need to be careful. Saved folk still have emotions. We still fall for people we shouldn't. We are still able to fall into same traps that we fell into in the world.
3. Absolutely no guy BFF's.
B.F.F? Best-friend forever. So let me get this right, you plan on having a guy bestie when you're married?
4. No male mentors either (or accountability partners.)
Exactly what is he supposed to be mentoring you on again? Courting? How to be a wife? Motherhood? That time of the month?
"Oh, what's that? You say you have cramps? Don't worry."
5. Never hang out with him alone.
And I wouldn't even do too much texting outside of a group message. You might not think you could be tempted by your Brother-in-Christ. But in this pursuit of purity, you'd be surprise what or who can tempt you. The flesh is very weak. Say it with me-
More ways coming soon! (Unless of course I forget.)